Thursday, 10 February 2011

Sometimes life doesn't go to plan

Ok, so I didn’t realise back in August 2010 that it was going to take so long to blog again. There were so many things in my mind I could have blogged about and I didn’t get around to committing a single one to paper. The ideas have evaporated somewhat and I’m not worried about that, life has a habit of putting things in perspective for you every once in a while; 2010 will go down in history for not following ‘the plan’ (life never does hey?); In the first half of the year, my Nan died, followed a few weeks later by the death of one of my uncles. In the summer I moved house and started a job in the same month (happy but mildly stressful time).  In October, things took another dive when I found out my temporary job was to end 6 months early, a month later it snowed, snowed and then snowed some more causing all manner of stress and risk to life and limb.

A full year by anyone’s standard but 2010 hadn’t delivered all of its challenges yet. Two weeks before Christmas I received a phone call that will haunt me for years to come, a call from my Mum to say that my brother-in-law had died unexpectedly.  I will never forget the week that followed, and the agony of seeing my Mum trying to be in two places at one time as my twin sister went into hospital for 5 days for a serious operation and, as it turned out, a blood tranfusion.  Mum and I did a crazy motorway dash from Cheshire to Yorkshire in freezing fog to visit Helen in hospital, stopping only to pick up tobbogans for the children and some lunch (I've learned that children don't stop being children just because they are grieving).  I was given a glimpse that day of what it means to be a parent, and now understand that the hardest part of parenting often happens well after your children have flown the nest.

Two months on, the pain hasn’t eased a single bit, my head still spins and my blood still runs cold just thinking about it…I am well aware that I haven’t even begun to process the grief I feel for my sister Tanya’s loss. I’m also aware that I am using an unbelievable amount of energy trying not to think about my niece and nephew’s loss.

Two days after the funeral, I went to a job interview, and two days after that I celebrated Christmas as best as I could. We are taught from such an early age that the best way to deal with disappointment and loss is to pick ourselves up and carry on. That’s what I’m doing, that’s what my whole family is doing. One day at a time.

Today ‘Hope is where the He:art is’, an art collaboration with my twin sister Helen has become the metaphoric phoenix rising from the ashes of our family’s loss. It feels like a useful way of moving forward and focusing on the future. Our hope is to build a legacy that raises awareness of heart disease and provides a small amount of financial support to our sister and her children, as well as to the British Heart Foundation. You can read all about it here.

Sunday, 15 August 2010

June Brought Puffins

June was a month of adventures, amongst which a fantastic trip to the Isle of May off the Fife coast.  It was a magical day, starting with a one hour boat ride from Anstruther.  For once, I'm struggling to put into words the anticipation experienced as we set sail and then the sheer wonder on arrival, seeing puffins, gulls, tern, shags, cormorants, oystercatchers, guillimots and even the odd common seal at each turn.  Two hours was plenty of time to explore the island and take some spectacular close up pictures of the inhabitants (although we would have happily stayed another two).

I suspect that a trip to the Isle of May might become an annual tradition, just looking through my photos makes me want to go back.  I would recommend the Isle of May to anyone who has even a passing interest in birds, it's a memorable day out (http://www.isleofmayferry.com/home.asp).

I'll write about the other things I've been getting up to soon, the next blog post is already forming itself in my mind so you shouldn't have to wait long to find out.

Thursday, 29 April 2010

Procrastination & Inspiration

I’ve come to the conclusion that my procrastination is a good thing…it provides tangible and irrefutable evidence that I am *creative*. Great excuse, I hear you snort, but the evidence is there in cyber-space, in blogs of creative folk across the world, all containing at least one post (frequently several) charting individual battles with procrastination.

This realisation is a welcome bolt of lightning which allows me to accept the fact that despite having ample spare time for creative pursuits, I’ve been the least creative that I could possibly have been. I’d imagined dreamy days creating all manner of arty/bloggy/poemy efforts that would provide a useful (or vaguely interesting) outcome for any hours not spent job hunting. Let’s just say that what I have to show for my time is negligible and deserves to remain hidden in my notebook...I’ve doodled some, written zero poems and avoided blogging until a threat to unfollow me prompted action (harsh but effective). In my defence, several blog posts have been mentally composed but lingered in a dusty corner of my mind, this post has been a scandalous 10 days in the making. I’m at peace with this funk though, because I’m *creative* and this just is a well-trodden phase of the journey. [*update* I got a JOB, woohoo! Oh dear, no excuses now :-S]

Have no fear though, life is not all tantrums and frustration; hours of procrastination has led to inspiration in the form of discovering the insanely (in a nice way) talented and über-modest Andrea Joseph, whose illustrations are delightful and awe-inspiring in equal measures. At first glance, the everyday nature of her subjects disguises the effort and attention to detail in every inch of Andrea’s work; footwear is a noted favourite, resulting in a thus-far resisted urge to go shoe shopping myself (how big is Andrea’s shoe closet?). Any item which falls under Andrea’s gaze - the contents of a handbag, with glimpses and hints of past adventures such as bus journeys, cinema outings or recent vacations, newspaper-wrapped chips or a toothbrush - may find itself captured in the flurry of cross-hatches of a nearby biro (has an opportunity for sponsorship gone unexplored?), resulting in intricate illustrations that most mortals could only dream of achieving.

I have been in love with Andrea’s work since first sight, with an enthusiasm which can only be described as evangelical (I wish I knew more people, I fear friends may soon ban me from mentioning Andrea)…I find myself at a loss however (yes, me – lost for words, I know), how I should describe my excitement and admiration for Andrea’s children’s book project-in-progress; stratospheric? I will happily admit to a sizeable art-crush; I never tire of browsing Andrea’s illustrations and her latest project doesn’t disappoint. This is my favourite picture so far and shows just how brilliantly imaginative Andrea is; who among us would know what a pixie stores in its tall hat?

The point of telling you all of this, aside from sharing Andrea’s work with you, is that against all odds Andrea has succeeded in giving me the courage to attempt to overcome the phobia I have over my inability to draw. It is no mean feat to have inspired me to pick up a pencil and ‘just draw’ without worrying about how bad the outcome might be. Everyday objects seem so much friendlier and less daunting than sketching landscapes or wildlife (my blood pressure rose just thinking about it). Drawing the chaos of my desk or the contents of my handbag feels more accessible, and my first effort miraculously revealed that I can produce drawings that don’t need to be labelled before they can be recognised. It’s early days yet but I’m confident that one day in the short to medium-term future I will post a drawing here that you don’t need to squint or tilt your head at to understand. In the meantime, I’ll share the print I bought from Andrea’s Etsy shop…it is the first of many that I intend to own.

Andrea Joseph Print

I urge you to explore Andrea’s work*, enjoy losing yourself in meticulously detailed illustrations that will make you smile and shake your head in disbelief. If you can’t justify buying a piece for yourself, you will find yourself working out how many of your friends would enjoy a print for their next birthday. Go for it, it’s a purchase you won’t regret; work this fantastic should to be bought and appreciated. An illustrator which such prolific talent deserves to be recognised and rewarded for their efforts. Indeed, if there is any justice in this world, Andrea’s book will succeed in catapulting her into well-deserved literary spotlight…despite any efforts she may make to continue hiding her considerable light under a proverbial bushel.
*I accept no responsibility for hours lost, art crushes developed or impulse purchases made which result from this recommendation.

Friday, 19 February 2010

The Long Beautiful Winter

Winter Wonderland

I chuckle to myself each time I consider the irony that I chose the longest, coldest, snowiest winter in 20 years to move to Scotland…I’ve actually loved every minute of it, revelled in the blanket of snow which made my first Christmas here a white one, secretly hoped the snow would never melt. At times it felt as if I was the only person in Scotland enjoying the snow; my own personal Winter Wonderland. What excitement!

Everything looked prettier and outings felt distinctly more adventurous when every surface was covered in inches of snow and ice. Alas, all good things must come to an end, as the saying goes and after a blissful few weeks of ‘Arctic’ conditions, the collective will of the Scottish population took hold and the snow gradually melted, leaving just the odd pile of ice here and there to hint at the chaos that had receded.

I long for more snow. I suspect you’re missing the snow too, although you obviously can’t admit that out loud, after the number of times you bemoaned the difficulties you had getting to work/ home/ the shops / the pub and groaned each time a new flurry of snow fell during a weekday afternoon, leaving you panic stricken that you would get snowed in AT WORK (yes, the universe would be that cruel to you). Have no fear, closet snow lovers, I’ve compiled a small exhibition of my favourite photos of the season for you to gaze adoringly and daydream of snow days and snowmen. Before you go any further, place your thumb and finger over the ALT and TAB keys to expedite your navigation away from this page, lest anyone you moaned to endlessly about the pesky snow should walk past and see you partaking in such a guilty pleasure….Enjoy!

Friday, 20 November 2009

Guest Blog Debut: Child Sponsorship

This week, in response to a request by my cousin for guest blog entries about child sponsorship, I've taken a departure from the usual ponderings about the journey I'm on and turned my thoughts to the lives of those much less fortunate than me.
It was a pleasure and a privilege to write about the orphanage my Dad built in Kenya. He is an inspiration and living proof that you can do amazing things when you set your mind to it.


Click on the photo to read my entry and the thoughts of others on this touching issue. Please think long and hard about whether you could afford to sponsor a child in Africa. I don't miss such a small amount of money each month and I'm sure you wouldn't either.

Thursday, 29 October 2009

Month One in the Kingdom

It’s hard to believe that I’ve been in Scotland a month already, just moments ago I was leaving London on a fast train whilst my possessions simultaneously sped up the motorway somewhere beyond Manchester. Spectacular dedication on the part of the assembled removal crew meant they beat Mum and me by two hours. The lorry was unloaded and beers in the fridge by the time we got there. How’s that for a stress-free move? It was fantastic having Mum and Dad there, I don’t know how I’d have managed the move without them (and Louis and Ed – haven’t forgotten you guys!). Three short days later, I was waving my parents off, absorbing the fact that I had made my dream move and couldn’t help but wonder what the future holds.

The first couple of weeks were hard going; endless hours of beholding (with shame and desperation) the sheer volume of my worldly possessions, taking things out of boxes…putting them back, moving piles from one end of the room…then back again as I tried valiantly to make a quantity of belongings more suited to a 3-bed house fit into a studio flat. My efforts have been rewarded, I’ve pulled off an incredible feat of logistics and not only found a place for everything I've unpacked, but also housed the myriad of boxes still requiring attention, without the place looking like the self-storage unit of a serial hoarder.

Two weeks in and my flat felt like home, time to relax and start enjoying my time in Scotland. I’d already had my first outing into Kirkcaldy for the spectacle of Big Man Walking 2009. Words don’t do it justice, take a look at the photos on the website, I guarantee you’ll be hoping the Big Man visits your town next year. The following weekend was even more action packed and really made me realise how different living in Scotland will be from the life I knew in London. On the Friday, a trip to Edinburgh with Craig, what a great city! Lunch was a superb egg & bacon muffin in M&S café, a highly recommended dose of food heaven (get there before 12pm, not 12.10pm as we did, and you get a free tea/coffee with your muffin, woo!). Got rather wet walking home from the station, but that didn't dampen our spirits any.

On Saturday it was a visit with Craig to a fantastic farm shop and cafe called Loch Levens Larder for a delicious lunch of baked potato and hot chocolate (is this beginning to sound like a tour of Scottish lunch venues?) before walking down to Loch Leven. It's a picturesque spot that most people can access and enjoy, thanks to a new gravel path laid all along and the availability of electric scooters from the Larder FREE of charge (what lovely people, they do great desserts too!). The memorable moment of the day happened as we were walking along listening to the sound of our feet on the gravel and the pink-footed geese on the loch; all of a sudden we became aware of a wall of noise behind us. We turned to see thousands of geese flying to the loch, such an amazing sight; the whole sky was full of birds. They flew right over our heads and landed in the loch. What a spectacular outing. This is my favourite picture, click on it to visit my Flikr page where you can also see photos of the Lomond Hills which provided a stunning backdrop.



On Sunday, a walk through Ravenscraig Park and beyond brought unexpected delights and unfortunate tumbles on the rocks. Whilst it was chilly walking through the park, it was sheltered and sunny down on the beach, providing an opportunity to spend time sitting watching the waves, guessing at the identity of various birds passing by. A little further along the beach, we realized that blobs in the distance, assumed to be rocks were moving. As we got closer, it became obvious that the 'rocks' were seals enjoying the afternoon sun. In my excitement, I slipped on the rocks and landed in a puddle...splat! I was a bit sore, but my immediate concern was for my camera which hit the rocks hard as I went down (the chilling sound still haunts me). I looked with dread at my camera to assess the damage...beneath the seaweed there were just a few scratches on the zoom casing!!! *huge sigh of relief*. I was soaked and bruised, but continued watching the seals in awe for a while and got some great photos. On the upside, it was a perfect excuse to spend the rest of the day curled up on the couch in my fleecy pjs. The ‘best’ bit about my mishap was falling over with such a clatter 30 seconds after whispering “we have to be really quiet so we don't disturb the seals”. Ach well, it was worth the pain, the memory will remain for a long time. Follow the link on the photo below to see more seal pics.


I'm feeling really settled up here now. I get immense pleasure from the ever changing landscape each time I step outside my door; I don’t think I’ll ever tire of seeing the sea from the top of my road. The surrounding woodlands are a blaze of Autumn, it’s truly a beautiful time of year to be making my new home in Scotland.

Thursday, 8 October 2009

Inspiration to Achieve

Sometimes I wonder what I would achieve if I lived in a little bubble on my own (maybe with just one other person for company, to stop me going mad). I know myself well enough to suspect it would not be a very productive life; thank goodness for having so many people on this planet who inspire me to do something more with my life.

Years ago, I gave up on New Year’s resolutions. I realised that saying I might try to achieve something in the coming year did not equal getting things done. The familiar sense of failure come February, March, April (you get the idea) as I admitted to my miserable self that yet again I was no closer to losing weight, being happy, being tidy, doing more with my life (the list goes on, I won’t bore you) than I was on 31st December. I have been a fair bit happier since I stopped making yearly resolutions to fail at, so at least one of my goals is a step nearer. I do however still feel the need to have something to aim towards, and I’m in a lucky position to have the time available right now to ponder what it is I want from life. A recent flurry of energy and enthusiasm from my twin, coupled with a chance visit to the Day Zero page of a fascinating Fife blogger (their to-do-list spookily resembled my own mental list) got me thinking in earnest about where my energy should be directed in the coming months/years/decades for maximised happiness and zen-like fulfilment. It seems unfair to credit just two people with this call to action, because I know so many other people who have played their part also. Thank you to each and every one of you (check out the links/blogs I follow, a plethora of creative people for you to be inspired by as I have been).

2009 and Beyond: The Path to Contentment

  1. Lose 14lbs
  2. Find a spiritual path
  3. Find a job I love
  4. Write for at least 30mins every day
  5. Have a piece of writing published
  6. Attend a photography course
  7. Attend a creative workshop
  8. Learn to play (some) piano
  9. See/photograph a red squirrels & seals
  10. Learn chess
  11. Walk regularly
  12. Learn Spanish
  13. Write a novel
  14. Develop and maintain healthy eating habits
  15. Walk Fife Coastal Path
  16. Go camping at least twice a year
  17. Stop shopping at supermarkets
  18. Learn to sing
  19. Learn to knit
  20. Update blog weekly
  21. Increase use of fresh/organic foods
  22. Recycle, Reduce, Reuse
  23. Wear my glasses when reading
  24. Volunteer with a conservation group
  25. Go horse riding
  26. Travel through Grampians/Highlands on a train
  27. Spend a week exploring Isle of Lewis & Harris
  28. Teach myself to play my guitar
  29. Organise and tag my photos
  30. Do a painting
  31. Develop a yoga habit
  32. Develop a meditation habit
  33. Meet creative people (and non-creative, they are nice too)
  34. Learn metalworking
  35. Identify 25 things I like about myself
  36. Buy a sketch pad and doodle/draw until it is filled
  37. Catch the boat from Anstruther to the Isle of May
  38. Use my slow cooker
  39. Join/start a book/doodle group
  40. Do something creative every day
  41. Read the books on my reading list (20 as of 08/10/09)
  42. Visit Hawaii
  43. Visit California
  44. Take a rubbish bag on every trip to the beach
  45. File my tax returns before it is January
  46. Practice massage regularly
  47. Get a library card
  48. Learn to identify trees and birds
  49. Own a craft/book shop
  50. Turn my photos into postcards/cards for sale

There you go, a list of my 50 top priorities for the foreseeable future. Doing all these things won’t fall into place over night, so I invite you to check in regularly to ask me how things are going. One thing I’m certain of, I am going to succeed in achieving the items on this list like no other list that has gone before. It’s going to be a fun journey.